Rediscovering My Love of Bowling

If you’re familiar with my posts on the blog, you may be surprised to see my name attached to something that isn’t related to gardening or woodworking. But today I’m writing about something Magz and I did last Friday: we went bowling. As two adults without kids, why would we go bowling in the middle of summer?

My guess is that nearly every American has gone bowling at least once in their life. When Magz and I were kids, they almost became a third place. It’s where friends had their birthday parties, where you went with your youth group, and where you’d go to kill an afternoon in the winter or when it was really hot. And I think that most people stop bowling once they reach high school and stop having birthday parties…or at least that’s how it has been for us. Despite that, we have still thought about going bowling for something to do.

We often look for fun activities around us. Because we love our home, both inside and out, it can be a struggle to want to go places. What we really enjoy are local activities where we can kill a couple of hours and not spend a ton of money. We’re fans of mini-golfing for this reason, but with only one course in town, it becomes repetitive, and the place needs a bit of TLC. Two years ago, not long after we bought our house, we tried going bowling at our local alley, but the vibe was off. When you entered the building, it felt like you were walking down a labyrinth just to find the lanes. Plus, everything was poorly lit, even in the middle of the afternoon, so we left without even talking to someone.

For nearly two years, we stopped talking about going bowling until early last week when we watched a YouTube video from Phil Edwards. If you’ve never heard of Phil Edwards, his channel dives into various historical and cultural topics, and he presents them in very intelligent and creative ways. This video was about bowling alleys replacing traditional pinsetters with string pins. It covers the history of bowling alleys and pinsetters, why some bowling alleys are switching to string pins, and how bowling is becoming the latest victim of private equity and commercialization. The biggest takeaway is that we need to do everything we can to keep local, independent bowling alleys open and thriving. So, we started looking at the bowling alleys in our area and were shocked to see how many there are. Within a 30-mile radius, there are probably 10 of them. And the best news is that they all appear to be independently owned. So, last Friday on a day off from work, we went to the closest one outside of our town.

My Love of Bowling

I used to really enjoy bowling. Like others, I would go to friends’ birthday parties, glow bowling as part of church youth group lock-ins, and the occasional summer afternoon when my dad had off work. But unlike others, my interest in bowling stayed when it cooled for others. In middle school, I played as an extra on my mom’s and stepdad’s team in their church league. I have no idea how I did, but I remember enjoying it and began bowling at least once a week. I had my own ball, learned how to throw a hook, and steadily improved to the place where my average was in the 140s. I bowled as much as I could until it all stopped.

During my sophomore year of high school, I moved with my mom full-time, and the three of us moved two hours away, and everything changed. We stopped bowling. We went bowling at the local alley once, but it wasn’t as nice as the old place, so we never went. Eventually, even the conversations about bowling stopped. The balls were never thrown, and I don’t even know where my ball is anymore. I finally went bowling again in 2011 or 2012 during my sophomore year of college. My dad, stepmom, and brother visited me for a couple of days, and we went bowling one evening. I don’t remember all the details, but we had a lot of fun. And until last Friday, that was the most recent time I bowled. I don’t think my enjoyment of bowling ever ceased, though; it just became hard to find the time or gather enough friends to go bowling with. It felt like something that would be lost to my past. Thankfully, that proved to not be the case.

Bowling Again After 14 Years

Let me describe the bowling alley we went to last Friday. First, it’s primarily a pizza restaurant that is in a bowling alley. The entire business goes by the pizza restaurant’s name. So, it’s a pizza joint where you bowl rather than a bowling alley where you eat pizza. Because they make the majority of their money selling food, it’s more affordable to bowl there than other alleys in the area.

This setup also helps keep the bowling alley classic. In the Phil Edwards video I linked to earlier, two ways private equity is negatively affecting bowling alleys are through unnecessary “upgrades” and by selling advertising space everywhere. This bowling alley used traditional equipment, and there were no TVs showing sports or playing music. Otherwise, the only sounds were from bowling.

This bowling alley also had the smell we wanted from a bowling alley, as weird as that sounds. We like when bowling alleys are older and have a faint grease or stale cigarette smoke smell. Those smells mean that the bowling alley has been around for a long time and has survived the decades.

This bowling alley had all the hits that you look for: the multicolor leather shoes with too-long laces, the racks of balls, some with chips taken out of them, and the swivel chairs by each ball return. (Side note: I recently learned that you can buy these rental bowling shoes brand-new.) Feeling comfortable was great, but now to the real question: How do you bowl? When you haven’t done something in more than a decade, it’s really awkward doing it again for the first time.

What weight of ball do I want? Where do I stand before I throw? Which arrow on the lane do I aim the ball at? How do I throw a hook again? These questions all went through my head as I got ready to throw my first ball. And it was only made worse because Magz did really well on her first frame, knocking down nine of the ten pins. Meanwhile, three of my first four balls went into the gutter. As someone who used to be a pretty good bowler and is very competitive, yikes!

Eventually, I got more comfortable, found the ball I liked, and settled in. We played three games. Magz took game one by more than 20 points, as I failed to break 100. I pulled it together in game two with 150 points and regressed a little in game three to the 140s. Magz did quite well and was consistent across all three games, and I am so proud of her. Those three games flew by, and we had such a great time.

Support Your Local Bowling Alley

Even though we ultimately went bowling because we like doing it, we were initially nudged to go by that Phil Edwards video. Any time I hear of something being in the crosshairs of private equity and unnecessary modernization, it frustrates me, and I want to fight against it. Finding a bowling alley that still has all the traditional equipment with classic styling is a wonderful thing. It’s like stepping back in time, but everything still works. If you have an independent bowling alley around you and haven’t gone in a while, I recommend checking it out. It is a great way to spend a couple of hours, and who knows, you might just get the itch to go more often. I know that we’ll be going back in the near future.