Reflections From the Garden: Lessons Learned

With the garden wrapping up for the year and little happening on a weekly basis, I’ve decided to pause the weekly updates. There isn’t enough to write about without being redundant. I’ll continue to provide updates as vegetables ripen and grow, but in the meantime, I want to alter my weekly segment to be a Reflections From the Garden column. I want to use this column to go over things I learned or thought about while in the garden. Sometimes, it will be directly related to gardening, while other times, it may be focused on personal things. The first edition will be dedicated to some of the lessons I learned since spring.

Accepting When Things Don’t Work Perfectly

I was originally going to have a section called “Letting Go of Control,” but it felt too similar to this section. This year, I learned that gardening is something I found myself wanting to control at every level. I wanted to control the amount of rain and sun we got, the temperature, when plants germinated, when they should be transplanted, when to restart seeds, and how quickly we should start seeing fruit. I had everything organized and included on one of my spreadsheets. But the reality is that for all the work I put into the organizing and planning, it didn’t matter all that much. I can’t control the weather or temperature. Sometimes, seeds take longer than the packet says to germinate, which means giving them more time to sprout. I also can’t force starts outside just because the calendar says they should be in the ground by a certain date. Likewise, plants can take longer than expected to produce fruit and fully ripen.

In a garden, things are bound to not go to plan at times. There are more things out of our control than in our control. Plants will fail at every stage – germination, transplanting, fruiting, and ripening. Sometimes, it’s because we did something wrong, but other times, we can do everything right and it will still fail. And that’s okay. Letting go of outrageously high expectations and control leads to a more enjoyable experience. I wasn’t there at first, but I began to grasp it as the garden went on.

Have Fun

Gardening is a lot of work. I also set high expectations for things and find it easy to create endless to-do lists. In the garden, those lists included, tilling, seed starting, transplanting, weeding, watering, fertilizing, and on and on. Pretty soon, the garden was only work and no play. I stopped seeing it as a hobby I enjoyed and only viewed it as this thing that needed all my time and attention. I quit woodworking or doing my other hobbies. Eventually, I had to say “enough is enough.” Magz got me to refocus on all the fun that can be had in a garden. It’s a lot of fun seeing the growth of a plant as the days, weeks, and months progress. It’s also fun to see the different varieties of a vegetable present their unique qualities. Finally, it’s the most fun when it’s time to harvest ripe vegetables. It’s easy to get caught up in the work, to forever add new items to your to-do list. But hitting the “pause” button and focusing on why you wanted to garden in the first place is important. Gardening is a hobby for most of us, and hobbies are supposed to be fun.

Don’t Let it Drive You Mad

If you get focused on the success of your garden rather than the process, you will go crazy. Plants will look healthy for a couple of months, and out of nowhere, they’ll die. Fruits will develop on the plant, making you think that they’re going to reach maturity, only to wither and die off. We had that happen with numerous plants this year, including our ground cherries, spaghetti squash, and multiple tomato plants. We had a plant die off, while its neighbor of the same variety reached its full height and produced lots of fruit. They were in the same soil and experienced the same growing conditions. If you think about it too much, you’ll drive yourself mad. Instead, focus on the plants that do make it and continue to give them the best opportunity to succeed. That mindset change will lead to better results now and also help you have a better mindset.

Enjoying the Peace

In my first blog post, I wrote about how a garden provides a sense of home to me, and a home is supposed to be a peaceful place. It can be easy to forget how peaceful the garden is when we’re focused on the work required to make it happen. The sun and heat can feel oppressive, weeding can be back-breaking, and neighborhood noises can drown out the silence. Yet, if I make an effort to do less when it’s hot and sunny, listen to music or talk to God while weeding, and focus on the sounds of the garden instead of my surroundings, I can become lost in the tranquility. There are a lot of sounds in the garden. You’ll hear bees buzzing as they pollinate your plants, crickets chirping in the grass, and the plants rustling in the breeze. All of those sounds are sources of peace.

Hard Work Is Worth It

Prior to starting our garden, I wrote a lot about how much hard work is required to garden. That is very true. I also said that the hard work is worth it because you get to grow your own food for the summer, and potentially longer if you preserve it. But before you actually see it pay off, you don’t actually know that the hard work will be worth it. Now, with the garden wrapping up for the year, I can say for certain that the hard work was worth it. Being able to eat veggies out of the garden this summer made the hard work pay off. This wasn’t so much of a new lesson learned but more confirmation of what I thought would happen.